Have you ever thought about how important it is to feel that you truly matter?
The unmistakable awareness that you, with your unique qualities and contributions, play an essential role in your life, work, and the world at large. I genuinely hope you experience this, because you absolutely matter.
That feeling of mattering is a powerful force; a fundamental human need that forms the bedrock of your emotional well-being and your sense of self. Professor Isaac Prilleltensky, author of How People Matter, describes mattering as a blend of two vital elements: feeling valued by others and feeling that you add value to those around you.
In the workplace, this sense of mattering is equally pivotal. According to Gallup, when employees see recognition as a vital part of their organisation, they're nearly four times more likely to feel deeply connected to its culture. And those who receive excellent recognition are 20 times more engaged than those who get little or poor recognition.
Helping others feel valued and appreciated is simpler than you might think. It's in those seemingly small yet powerful gestures: a warm greeting and a genuine smile, expressing sincere gratitude, asking more meaningful questions (see image below), engaging in active listening coupled with meaningful eye contact, and involving others in important discussions and decision-making.
And when you show others they matter, you trigger a ripple effect, where everyone basks in the warmth of mattering, and that includes you too.
So, on this Monday, how can you make someone feel like they matter today?